“You’re doing great.” Has anyone said that to you lately? It’s funny how these simple words can lift your spirits up, even if it’s just for a moment. Almost every time I speak with my mom on the phone she says these words to me “Honey, you’re doing great. I’m very proud of you, you know that?”. She can always tell in the tone of my voice when I need some encouraging words (even when we’re 1300 miles apart). Here’s the thing about these simple words, they honestly send a boost to my motherhood confidence.
Stepping into the world of motherhood felt like literally exploring a whole different universe.
You speak differently. (sometimes I don’t know what I’m saying half the time.)
You dress differently. (I’m all about those boyfriend t-shirts and comfy pants, ocassionaly I’ll add the button down shirt “Claire Style” from Modern Family. )
You eat differently. (I’m starting to actually eat a little better in front of my son, but then ocassionaly I scarf down the “good stuff” when he’s asleep #guilty )
You drink differently. (sooooo much coffee, and on bad days I pull out the good stuff)
You google differently. (How to handle toddler tantrums? How to feed a picky eater? How to help a constipated baby? )
You sleep differently. (even when Johnny sleeps through the night I still wake up ocassionaly just because, you know I’m a mom and I worry…A LOT)
You overall look differently. (no more contacts, glassess all the way, which I actually recently broke! Good thing for backups!)
Basically it’s a whole lot of changes that happen so fast. Some days you feel like super mom, other days you feel like Cruella de Vil.
It’s tough this motherhood thing, but it’s also so marvelous. Along the way through this journey we often need to hear these words…”You’re doing great.” Because, let’s be honest a majority of the time we feel like we’re not. It’s hard to see the good when you’re not standing on the other side. In today’s day and age it feels like there are so many rules to follow, so many books to read, and so many people to judge you. It’s hard to believe that you’re doing great.
I’m here to tell you that it’s true, YOU ARE. No matter what stage you are in motherhood, you always need to hear these words. You’re trying your best, and some days you’re figuring it out as you go. Even if I haven’t officially met you, somehow you were brought to this post, so that right there says so much! I truly mean it when I say you’re doing great. I probably don’t know you personally, but I do know what a mothers heart feels like, so we have that in common. I also know that no matter who it’s from, we crave for these words to be told to us.
Can you do something for me? I want you to take a moment to yourself in the bathroom and stand in front of the mirror. Seriously!? YES, seriously. Just do it. I’ll wait…………..
Take this moment to…
Enjoy this moment.
Look at yourself and truly examine your “mom eyes” your “mom wrinkles” and your “mom hair” (we all have them, no reason to hide it. Embrace It.)
I am an amazing mom.
I am doing the very best for my family.
I am proud of myself.
I’m doing great.
“You’re doing great.”
Listen, I know it’s hard to actually believe it sometimes, so let’s do a run down of what it looks like.
Do you feed your kids? (even when they refused to eat)
Are they somewhat clean?
Are they filled with love?
Do you tell them “I love you”?
Do you show them affection?
Do you give them words of encouragement?
Do you interact with them?
Notice how these items are the foundational platform to the art of mothering. Nothing above stated getting house chores done, or buying your kids toys. It simply states the heart of motherhood. Today I’m just here to tell you,
“You’re doing great, you know that?”
Love to all the mamas!