From a SAHM’s Perspective: working moms I truly applaud you, but also let’s not forget about the working dads…

The working mom…

I had the opportunity to commit to this role for about 3 months, and that was enough for me. I just couldn’t do it anymore and  I am very lucky enough to have the opportunity not to.

Let me share a quick story with you…

I went back to work 3 months after giving birth to my son (like many moms do, and some have to go back even sooner than that!).  I literally cried every morning and all I thought about was “I wish I could be home with my son.” My work ethic wasn’t what it use to be because I had guilt hanging over me. I would come home and cry to my husband about how badly I just wanted to stay home and be with Johnny. It was miserable…We were lucky enough to have my husband stay home with Johnny during the day, and then as soon as I came home my husband would take off to work. We struggled with not being able to see each other as much, and our marriage was wilting…

I had the perfect job to raise a family too, being a teacher. I had off during the holidays, and a summer break. Though, just this past summer my husband and I crunched numbers and decided it was the best decision for me to stay home with Johnny. I had to also think about my “kids” in my classroom and realize it wouldn’t be fair to them as well because my heart wasn’t fully committed. I love the teaching aspect of my job, and guess what!? I realized I could still teach, only it would be a one-on-one approach with my son Johnny. #momsteachtoo

Don’t get me wrong we are sacrificing a lot, but it is all well worth it! I had to make a decision if it was worth it to be comfortable with money or more comfortable with my happiness. 

We have less money than we did before, but more HAPPINESS than we could imagine.

We have many dreams to fulfill that require quite a bit of money (such as owning a home and growing our family). We can still reach those dreams it’s just going to take more time and determination. I’m coming to peace with the idea of that. I have to remind myself that we have a comfortable place to live, food, friends, love, and support. I think we are living pretty well…This was the best descion for our family and we couldn’t be happier. This leads me to…

So here’s the moment I APPLAUD all the working moms…

I want to say THANK YOU for playing so many roles and showing how empowering moms can be! You provide the opportunity for your child to see how you can still work and be there for your family as well. Coming first hand I know it’s not easy. DON”T GET ME WRONG, BEING A SAHM IS A FULL TIME JOB IN ITSELF, AND HAS MANY STRESSES AS WELL. I just wanted to take this moment to shine the “spotlight” on all the working moms (this includes moms that work from home too), which are quite a bit in this society due to the absurd amount it costs to live comfortably. We see a lot of things in the media that relate to applauding SAHMs (WHICH, WE DESERVE IT), but sometimes working moms need the “spotlight” as well. So…

Working moms, take this moment to thank yourself for all that you do for your family, you deserve it! I know it

Let’s not forget about the working dads…

Dads also have a huge role to play, especially if they’re the main income for their family. I’m privileged to have the opportunity for my husband to be able to provide an income for our family. I know it’s a lot of pressure to have your family rely on you for money, especially with the uprising cost of living. Statistically, the average cost of living for a family of 4 in the United States is $82,900 (ridiculous). You can also click this link to view the cost of living index within your specific area. Sorry…I got sidetracked for a moment…let’s get back to recognizing the working dads. As a mom who is able to stay at home, I want to say THANK YOU to the working dads that fulfill this job and provide this opportunity for their family. It truly is an honor to have my husband be one of them.

Working dads, (moms, make sure to share this with your husband!) take this moment to thank yourself for all that you do for your family, you deserve it!

From the perspective of a SAHM,

Thank you to all! 

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